refactor: use modernc sqlite driver as default (#37562)

The mattn driver is still kept, can be enabled by
TAGS="sqlite_mattn sqlite_unlock_notify"

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Co-authored-by: TheFox0x7 <thefox0x7@gmail.com>

go.mod

@@ -121,6 +121,7 @@ require (
 	google.golang.org/protobuf v1.36.11
 	gopkg.in/ini.v1 v1.67.2
 	gopkg.in/yaml.v3 v3.0.1
+	modernc.org/sqlite v1.50.0
 	mvdan.cc/xurls/v2 v2.6.0
 	strk.kbt.io/projects/go/libravatar v0.0.0-20260301104140-add494e31dab
 	xorm.io/builder v0.3.13
@@ -238,6 +239,7 @@ require (
 	github.com/mrjones/oauth v0.0.0-20190623134757-126b35219450 // indirect
 	github.com/mschoch/smat v0.2.0 // indirect
 	github.com/munnerz/goautoneg v0.0.0-20191010083416-a7dc8b61c822 // indirect
+	github.com/ncruces/go-strftime v1.0.0 // indirect
 	github.com/nwaples/rardecode/v2 v2.2.2 // indirect
 	github.com/oasdiff/yaml v0.0.9 // indirect
 	github.com/oasdiff/yaml3 v0.0.12 // indirect
@@ -255,6 +257,7 @@ require (
 	github.com/prometheus/client_model v0.6.2 // indirect
 	github.com/prometheus/common v0.67.5 // indirect
 	github.com/prometheus/procfs v0.20.1 // indirect
+	github.com/remyoudompheng/bigfft v0.0.0-20230129092748-24d4a6f8daec // indirect
 	github.com/rhysd/actionlint v1.7.12 // indirect
 	github.com/rs/xid v1.6.0 // indirect
 	github.com/russross/blackfriday/v2 v2.1.0 // indirect
@@ -288,6 +291,9 @@ require (
 	golang.org/x/tools v0.44.0 // indirect
 	google.golang.org/genproto/googleapis/rpc v0.0.0-20260401020348-3a24fdc17823 // indirect
 	gopkg.in/warnings.v0 v0.1.2 // indirect
+	modernc.org/libc v1.72.0 // indirect
+	modernc.org/mathutil v1.7.1 // indirect
+	modernc.org/memory v1.11.0 // indirect
 )
 
 ignore (